Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Have You Hugged a CNA/Nurse Today?

Mother has been in a nursing home for almost a year now and has been blessed with some amazing caregivers / CNA. These gals work non stop and really seem to care for their patients. Recently I was surprised to learn that in the state of Alabama there are no legal restrictions on the number of residents a Certified Nursing Assistant can be assigned per shift!?! A brief list of tasks these CNA's perform daily would look something like this:

1. Assist residents in/out of bed. This would include responsibity for being sure the bed linens are ok.
2. Assist with bathing needs of residents.
3. Assist many residents with putting on clean clothes for the day.
4. Deliver meal trays.
5. Assist with feeding residents meals.
6. Pick up meal trays.
7. Deliver fresh water and snacks.
8. Transport wheelchair-bound residents to/from group activities/dining hall.
9. Toilet/Offer to toilet each resident an average once every two hours (= 4 times per shift).
10. Charting patient info.

They have a huge and often thankless job, and I would just like to go on record in support of CNA's and a limit to the number of residents they can be assigned per shift. After all, they shoulder the main responsibility and care for some pretty precious people!

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Three Things That Break My Heart

If I had to list three things that break my heart it would be 1) the orphan crisis, 2) poverty, and 3) the elderly. I have been reading MckMama blog this past week while they were in Kenya. Due to our international postings, Ron and I have seen first hand people living in poverty. One of my first memories of living in Cairo was a small child sleeping on a piece of cardboard while flies swarmed around the child. I remember a family of five living underneath the stairs of our first apartment building in Cairo, and the only toys the kids had were sticks and rocks. Ron tells me it is worse in places he has worked but I have not visited. I have seen the poverty MckMama wrote about in third world countries so I was not surprised at what they saw in the slums of Nairobi.

While in Trinidad, we were blessed with an opportunity to work with a local orphanage and sponsor a young boy named Ronald who was four years old when we first met. The houseparent was so supportive of efforts by the International Women's Club and we were even allowed to take the children out for visits. On our first visit with Ronald we went to McDonald's and we are sure it was his first trip to a restaurant. Ronald's first reaction when given the Happy Meal was to wait patiently for what we wanted him to do next instead of digging into the box for the toy. We remember that he consumed every drop of ketchup, but wrapped up half of his burger to take to his brother. (It was later that we realized what he was doing with half the burger.) It was very difficult saying goodbye to the boys when we left Trinidad, but I got a chance to surprise them and returned about 18 months later to check on them. Ronald is the one in the red and blue shirt and jean shorts.






Many of you have been to orphanages and are probably thinking this one does not look bad. I wish I had pictures of what it looked like when we first moved to Trinidad. Kudos to the drilling department in Trinidad and Tobago who worked with a young Eagle Scout candidate to paint the first floor of the orphanage. Also, the International Women's Club is responsible for the new floor on the first floor.

For me there are few things in life sadder then a nursing home. It's hard to believe that Mother is coming up on her one year anniversary as a resident of a nursing home. We try our best to get there daily around mealtimes to encourage her to eat something. Today when we arrived she was sitting at the table, had not touched her meal, and was sound asleep. Over the last few months we have watched her regress, and it's almost like she is forgetting the very basics of life. As I looked around the dining room I was saddened to see so many people struggling so hard with such a simple task as eating a meal. Today in that dining hall, I realized what MckMama was saying about taking things for granted. As Americans we live such a blessed life, and my struggles pale when compared to those living in third world countries, or the elderly in a nursing home.

I also liked the point MckMama raised upon returning home about her children and what we are teaching our children in regard to such things as orphan crises, poverty, and the elderly. Andy and Ashley both got to visit the children in the orphanage in Trinidad, and it's my prayer that it impacted them to the point that they have a heart for the needs of others. They witnessed the poverty as they traveled with us. Although our children are now grown and on their own, I believe they are quietly watching our reactions and support of things like orphans, poverty and the eldery. It does not matter if our children are toddlers or young adults, they watch and observe their parents. So for now, we will continue to care for Mother the best we can and although we do not feel called to adopt we can support the orphan crises in other ways. We will respond because it's the right thing to do, and because these faces are also watching us even though they are adults. How about you? What breaks your heart?


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Monday, March 1, 2010

CHANGES IN LIFE

A really sweet gal that is still in Moscow recently left a comment on Facebook about how difficult it was waiting for news as to their next assignment. Wow! I really could relate to where she is coming from as limbo is just terrible. We are coming up on the two year anniversary of BP shutting down in Russia and I am just beginning to realize why we left. Ron and I loved living in Moscow and meeting couples coming to Russia to adopt was definitely a highlight. Without a doubt, Russia was our favorite overseas posting and we will always have a special place in our heart for the country.

These pictures below show why is was time for us to leave the place we loved and move on to the next chapter is our lives. While we hated to leave I would not trade the opportunities that have unfolded here since we have returned to the states.

We recently got to keep Wyatt while his folks attended a CE class. It was a blast!



Wyatt loves to play in the car.

This is one of my favorties as Wyatt has the biggest grin on his face.

Sorry Andy and Kasey I did not get any pictures of you guys this trip




Touring in Nashville and lunch at the Wild Horse Salon with Ashley



Elvis recorded in this studio and played this very piano. This piano is one of the few items Elvis was never able to buy according to the tour guide.



Ron just returned from taking his Mom to see family in Oklahoma. The smile on her face is priceless as she hugs her two grandsons.

Have I mentioned that we are loving retirement life?!?!?!?



Eric has given me permission to ask for prayers for him as he battles cancer. Eric and his Dad will be traveling to MD Anderson this week for testing, and I covet your prayers for this very special young man. Eric reads this blog and I know he would appreciate your prayers.

So to one of the most positive people I know - enjoy the time you have left in Moscow and I look forward to hearing about the new adventures in your family! Eric - you are in our thoughts and prayers as you travel this week.